The Bottom LineWhen Anger Hurts: Quieting the Storm Within co-authored by Matthew McKay Ph.D, Peter D. Rogers Ph.D, Judith McKay R.N. is an effective workbook for anger management, and a useful tool to assist meditation on naam to overcome the five evils and reduce the volume of ego's voice anger. The book includes both a physical and psychological approach to understanding anger and its triggers, offers coping techniques and encourages personal determination to overcoming anger inducing stress, through journal writing.
- Presents the components of anger.
- Points out that anger is a choice.
- Outlines the internal voice of anger and its volume.
- Examples help to identify and understand anger triggers.
- Skill building and coping techniques include workbook and personal journal.
- Requires a commitment to dedication, determination and discipline to complete this very effective program.
- When Anger Hurts: Quieting the Storm Within
- Co-authors: Matthew McKay Ph.D, Peter D. Rogers Ph.D and Judith McKay R.N.
- Edited by Kirk Johnson
- Copyright © 1989
- Published by New Harbinger Publications
5674 Shattuck Ave
Oakland Ca 94609
- 320 pages, First and Second Edition available in soft cover paperback, and hard cover.
- List price New:
Kindle - $9.99
Soft Cover - 16.99
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Guide Review - "When Anger Hurts: Quieting the Storm Within" by Matthew McKay
A licensed marriage and family counselor recommended When Anger Hurts: Quieting the Storm Within by Matthew McKay to our family in 2002. We had to order a copy, but meanwhile we found another source and purchased one directly so that we had one on hand while waiting for the other. When the book we had on order arrived, another Sikh family, who happened to be visiting, took a look at it with us and ordered a copy online for themselves. During our active phase of following the program, my husband and I each had our own copy. The book is quite intensive and encourages journaling, so it worked out well that we each had our own personal book to reference at our convenience. Over the years we recommended the book to other Sikh families going through any kind of crisis where anger happened to be an issue. A friend who had heard we had the book from another friend called asking to borrow a copy, and we lent one to another family member, so both of our copies were out on loan for a while (one still is).
Why is When Anger Hurts: Quieting the Storm Within so popular with Sikhs?
Sikhism teaches that anger or (krodh) is one of five voices of the ego which disease the soul and cause a sense of separation from the divine. Reading daily prayers and doing meditation or simran quiets the ego, and its voices, enabling the soul to achieve humility and spiritual liberation.
The program outlined in the book When Anger Hurts: Quieting the Storm Within defines the various components of anger, enables the reader to identify triggers and teaches skills including time outs and writing journals which help to reduce the volume of inner dialogue leading to anger outbursts. In Sikhism, employing naam jaap or recitation of "Waheguru" is an effective means of taking a time out. Essentially the techniques outlined in the book work well with techniques taught in Sikhism for overcoming ego. One who successfully follows the program to reduce the volume of the inner dialogue leading to anger also masters powerful techniques which can be applied to ego's voices of lust, greed, pride and attachment, as well as quieting the voices of fear and anxiety. Not only does the individual find relief from turmoil and experience inner calm, the entire family and even sangat benefits when peace ensues.
- Matthew McKay Ph.D received his degree from California School of Professional Psychology. Co-author of several books on psychology including The Divorce Book, and Self Esteem Co-director of Haight Ashbury Psychological Services and Family's in Transition in San Francisco, California, he focuses on behavioral modification to reduce anger, anxiety and depression.
- Peter D. Rogers Ph.D received his degree from Adelphi University. Co-author of The Divorce Book. Co-director of Haight Ashbury Psychological Services and Family's in Transition in San Francisco, California, his professional experience includes Redwood City's Kaiser Hospital Psychiatric Dept. His primary focus is short term resolution offering a humorous approach to psychotherapy.
- Judith McKay R.N. received her B.S degree from California State University Hayward. She collaborated with Self Esteem contributing her guide to raising children with self esteem, and research on the effects of anger on children. Her professional experience includes Berkeley's Alta Bates Hospital oncology unit.